Growing up with the prevailing wind of social insecurity has it's effects. Among other possibilities, it likely heightens an ability to empathize. It is also what drives the less conscious of our cruelties. What I've learned to ignore through the years is perhaps not what you've learned to ignore. And maybe, the greater the insecurities earlier in life and the resulting forceful need to cast aside these feelings earlier, the greater a biting ignorance later. It is what makes a kindly process deceptive. The empathy, true and heart-felt from a place of deep knowing, has no place for sympathy, an expression long since killed off in the name of self-defense.